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- How Many Times Each Year Do Couples Have Sex?
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So it’s summer and schedules are all over the place, including mine! If you’ve been following my blog, I’m sure you’ve noticed that I’ve been unexplainably silent for a couple weeks. Now you know why!!! I really missed you guys. It’s so good to be back!
Two weeks ago I had the great privilege of speaking to a beautiful group of parents who gather every month to support each other around a troubling issue concerning their children. I was so blessed by their love, transparency and earnestness in seeking God’s direction on how to parent as they face this seemingly insurmountable challenge. I prayed like a crazy woman about what to say. You see, they invited me as the “expert” to .........
“I’m just happy when you guys are happy.” Those were my nine year old daughter’s profound words this evening when I asked her if she thought that happy marriages make happy kids. So although not a scientific conclusion, I think I can deduce that “Grocery Store Date Night Can Lead to Emotionally Healthy Kids,” based on the reasoning of a nine year old. And shouldn’t she be an expert on this subject?
Great! Well, that takes us to the next point…Couples with strong marriages are often unified in their parenting strategies. I know, this is an assumption. However, if you have a strong marriage I’m willing to guess that you’re not constantly arguing about how to raise the kids. As .........
I’m sure you have no idea where this is going! I promise you there is a point!
On Mother’s Day at about 8:00 pm, after an interesting morning and afternoon of serving at a soup kitchen (a subject for another post!), then recuperating from serving at the soup kitchen, I realized that I had not gone grocery shopping for the week. So I propositioned my dear husband to join me on a non-erotic rendezvous to our local HEB supermarket. He graciously accepted the invitation, and off we ventured, kid-less and free!
I wish I could tell you that we roamed arm in arm through the aisles whispering sweet nothings in each other’s ears, but we did not. We were too tired. At the end of another hectic weekend, we .........
I met with a male client this week who spoke of feeling indifferent towards his wife. He stated that he did not like her very much, that they had a “horrible marriage,” and that he was staying because of the children. I hear this kind of thing a lot, but my heart still breaks every time, because I know that God has so much more planned for Christian couples. As Christ followers, we should have the best marriages. Our God invented marriage! Our God is love! Yet many of us live in daily defeat and unhappiness. So how can we, in small ways begin to cultivate warmer thoughts towards our partner? Here are a few simple ideas.
1. Reflect on the Earlier Days. What drew you to your spouse? Was he kind and always put you first? Was she.........
Well, if you guessed 4 minutes per day you were right!
Interesting fact by RandomHistory.com
Five Tips for Getting More Time Alone with Your Spouse
Love must be fed and nurtured...first and foremost it demands time.
- David Mace
Were you surprised by the answer to the quiz? Four minutes a day! The average couple spends FOUR minutes a day alone together! No wonder so many marriages are in crisis!
It seems as if busyness has become a national pastime, especially for those of us with kids. If we're not stuck in twelve hour work days, on the highway, or shuttling children to a multitude of activities, we're engulfed in chores, errands, homework, or... you fill in the gaps. Sometimes we don't even .........
The average married couple has sex 58 times per year, or slightly more than once a week.
This leads me to my next blog topic...
How to Have More Sex
As you can imagine this is a hot topic! And I do not profess to be an expert. There is actually a counseling specialty for this. It is called Sex Therapy. However, in my years of working as a marriage counselor and being married myself, I do know a thing or two! My plan is not to provide a long dissertation on the subject but just to give a few quick tips. Here goes –
1. Talk about your sex needs
It is important for each partner to be aware of and meet the sexual needs of the other. Talking about these needs helps build communication and intimacy, and clears up any ............
Contrary to popular belief, it is possible for us as couples to grow in our understanding of each other and to have healthy communication in our marriages, but for too many, this seems like an unattainable goal. To be honest, most of us have given up and have resigned ourselves consciously or unconsciously to just going through the motions in our marriages. Yet in John 10:10 Jesus promised us rich, fruitful and extravagant lives, but how many of us are living like He promised? Trust me, He wasn’t lying. This kind of living, these kinds of marriages are available to us, but how do we get there? Where do we start? As with everything in our lives, I believe we start with Jesus. And I hope you don’t think I’m being corny. I&..................
Last month we heard about Ann Marie and Tim's challenging marriage. After visiting a divorce attorney and spending the weekend in prayer, Ann Marie heard from God that she was the one that needed to change.
During their first “altercation” after God had spoken, Ann Marie prayed silently begging God for His power and to fill her with love for her husband. She asked God to help her see him through His eyes, the eyes of grace. God answered and gave her the strength to respond with love. Her husband was so shocked at the change that he did not know how to respond. As the weeks and months passed, she continued to show him love in tangible, affirming ways without expecting anything in return. At times, she would see him .........
Ann Marie and Tim married in a shot-gun style wedding after knowing each other for a few months. They had fallen madly in love and despite the warnings of family members and friends, they knew that their relationship was going to be different and would weather any storm. They were young and idealistic. However, from the first month of marriage, it was obvious to both of them that they had made a mistake and that the naysayers had been right. Now what would they do? She wanted out but was too embarrassed to hear “I told you so” from friends and family. And he just wanted out. They managed to limp along for many years of arguments and threats and eventually there was no love left. The sad part was that they were both Christians ............
Some time ago, I was seeing a lady for marital therapy. Her husband did not want to come in with her, so she had been coming in alone for several months. She was a sweet, petite, gentle woman who desperately wanted a deeper connection with her mate but did not feel like she was getting anywhere. One day we were talking about her relationship with God and I asked her how she was doing. She stated that she was struggling in her prayer life and could not understand why after she prayed, she would feel more depressed. I asked her to give me an example of what her prayers were like. She told me that she would often ask God why things were the way they were and when they would get better. She would brood over her husband’s faults and ...............
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