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- Why Grocery Store Date Night Can Lead to Emotionally Healthy Kids - Part 2
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- How to Feel More Loving Towards Your Spouse
- How Much Time Do Couples Spend Together?
- How Many Times Each Year Do Couples Have Sex?
- Is a Great Marriage Possible?
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So imagine this scene with me: It’s Sunday morning and you’re getting dressed for church, you take a shower, put on your favorite outfit and shoes, favorite perfume, best cologne and off you and the family go, heading up highway 71 to church. On the way your husband says something to you about the back door lock being broken and without even thinking about it you start telling him he needs to fix it this time because he never gets around to taking care of household chores anymore. And before you even know it, you’re hurling insults of an intense magnitude at each other, with the kids huddled together in the backseat, on highway 71, on the way to church. As you screech into the parking lot you wave religiously at the self.........
Recently, our pastor preached a sermon entitled, “The Family that Prays Together Stays Together.” It was a great reminder of the power of prayer and how important it is in building a strong family. In our home, we have Sunday evening Bible Studies and it’s such a special time of spiritual bonding! Both our children (thirteen and eighteen) are very comfortable praying aloud, and Steve and I have seen tremendous growth in the depth of their prayers since beginning this practice.
As we reflected on the message later in the week, my husband noted that he felt we should start praying together daily as a couple, as we did in the early days of our marriage before we had children. I immediately agreed. I knew this message.........
In my work as a therapist, I see clients who come in with all sorts of complex issues. Most are out of coping skills, exhausted from trying, at the end of themselves. You might even call them broken. God, on the other hand, is jumping up and down (figuratively of course!). He’s saying, “This is awesome! This is exactly what I wanted to happen! Hallelujah!” Yep. At least that’s what I think He would say. You see, God loves weak people. He was the one who said, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Do you remember this verse? Last month’s post ended with it. God loves broken people because then He can work unimpeded, with explosive power in their lives. We.........
Recently, I had the great privilege of speaking to a beautiful group of parents who gather every month to support each other around a troubling issue concerning their children. I was so blessed by their love, transparency and earnestness in seeking God’s direction on how to parent as they face this seemingly insurmountable challenge. I prayed like a crazy woman about what to say. You see, they invited me as the “expert” to address their group, but little did they realize that they are in fact the experts because they are walking this difficult journey every day. As I prayed about what to say, I had a strong sense that the Lord wanted me to speak on grace.
The Lord has been teaching me a lot about grace lately and .........
“I’m just happy when you guys are happy.” Those were my nine year old daughter’s profound words one evening years ago when I asked her if she thought that happy marriages make happy kids. So although not a scientific conclusion, I think I can deduce that “Grocery Store Date Night Can Lead to Emotionally Healthy Kids,” based on the reasoning of a nine year old. And shouldn’t she be an expert on this subject?
Great! Well, that takes us to the next point…Couples with strong marriages are often unified in their parenting strategies. I know, this is an assumption. However, if you have a strong marriage I’m willing to guess that you’re not constantly arguing about how to raise the .........
Based on the title of this post, I'm sure you have no idea where this is going! I promise you there is a point!
On Mother’s Day a few years ago at about 8:00 pm, after an interesting morning and afternoon of serving at a soup kitchen (a subject for another post!), then recuperating from serving at the soup kitchen, I realized that I had not gone grocery shopping for the week. So I propositioned my dear husband to join me on a non-erotic rendezvous to our local HEB supermarket. He graciously accepted the invitation, and off we ventured, kid-less and free!
I wish I could tell you that we roamed arm in arm through the aisles whispering sweet nothings in each other’s ears, but we did not. We were too .........
I met with a male client this week who spoke of feeling indifferent towards his wife. He stated that he did not like her very much, that they had a “horrible marriage,” and that he was staying because of the children. I hear this kind of thing a lot, but my heart still breaks every time, because I know that God has so much more planned for Christian couples. As Christ followers, we should have the best marriages. Our God invented marriage! Our God is love! Yet many of us live in daily defeat and unhappiness. So how can we, in small ways begin to cultivate warmer thoughts towards our partner? Here are a few simple ideas.
1. Reflect on the Earlier Days. What drew you to your spouse? Was he kind and always put you first? Was she.........
Well, if you guessed 4 minutes per day you were right!
Interesting fact by RandomHistory.com
Five Tips for Getting More Time Alone with Your Spouse
Love must be fed and nurtured...first and foremost it demands time.
- David Mace
Were you surprised by the answer to the quiz? Four minutes a day! The average couple spends FOUR minutes a day alone together! No wonder so many marriages are in crisis!
It seems as if busyness has become a national pastime, especially for those of us with kids. If we're not stuck in twelve hour work days, on the highway, or shuttling children to a multitude of activities, we're engulfed in chores, errands, homework, or... you fill in the gaps. Sometimes we don't even .........
The average married couple has sex 58 times per year, or slightly more than once a week.
This leads me to my next blog topic...
How to Have More Sex
As you can imagine this is a hot topic! And I do not profess to be an expert. There is actually a counseling specialty for this. It is called Sex Therapy. However, in my years of working as a marriage counselor and being married myself, I do know a thing or two! My plan is not to provide a long dissertation on the subject but just to give a few quick tips. Here goes –
1. Talk about your sex needs
It is important for each partner to be aware of and meet the sexual needs of the other. Talking about these needs helps build communication and intimacy, and clears up any ............
Contrary to popular belief, it is possible for us as couples to grow in our understanding of each other and to have healthy communication in our marriages, but for too many, this seems like an unattainable goal. To be honest, most of us have given up and have resigned ourselves consciously or unconsciously to just going through the motions in our marriages. Yet in John 10:10 Jesus promised us rich, fruitful and extravagant lives, but how many of us are living like He promised? Trust me, He wasn’t lying. This kind of living, these kinds of marriages are available to us, but how do we get there? Where do we start? As with everything in our lives, I believe we start with Jesus. And I hope you don’t think I’m being corny. I&..................
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