Ok, I know that I am milking this topic, ladies, but I promise to just share two more segments on this!
No blog about understanding husbands would be complete without talking about sex. And yes, I had to go there! For men, sex is much more than just a physical act. It’s actually a deeply emotional experience that when engaged in mutually, makes most husbands feel worthy and desired. Your active and creative participation can give him strength, healing and a sense of security that nothing else can. Wives who do not willingly or regularly participate in this area may not only be deeply wounding their husbands, but also depriving themselves of the positive responses that a sexually fulfilled can shower on them.
Emerson Eggerichs in his book, “Love and Respect” tells this story –
“The doctor and his wife did not have a happy marriage. She had laid down an ultimatum years before that she would not respond to him sexually until he met her emotional needs. Through a series of events, the Lord spoke to her and said, “Who is supposed to be the mature one here? He is a new believer and you’ve been in Christ for many years.” She got the message. She decided to minister to her husband sexually not because she wanted to but to do it as unto Jesus Christ. She didn’t have the need for sex. But the Lord had made it clear that this was her husband’s need and that she was to meet his need first. She proceeded to do so and soon after stated that “when we lay there in bed afterward, I couldn’t get him to be quiet.” Her need for emotional release and face to face talking was met.”
Many wives want their emotional needs met while ignoring their husband’s sexual needs.
Solution: Talk about your mutual needs; give yourself fully to him; get medical or psychological help if you need it; if you genuinely have a headache and must decline, be kind and affirming, but do not refrain often.
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